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Because it’s not just physical - it’s everything else, too.
If you're going through fertility treatment, I don’t need to tell you how much it takes from you - physically, emotionally, and mentally. But today, I want to talk about something that often gets overlooked: the mental load.
It’s that constant whirring in your mind - remembering when to take medication, scheduling appointments, making lifestyle changes, tracking symptoms, researching options, managing work commitments… and all while trying to stay hopeful and protect your emotional wellbeing.
That heavy, invisible checklist that you carry around every day? You're not imagining it. It's real. And it’s exhausting.
As someone who went through 6 years of trying to conceive and two IVF cycles myself, I know that it can feel like you’re holding everything together with sheer willpower. And I want you to know: you’re not alone, and it doesn’t have to feel quite so heavy.
Here are a few gentle, practical ways to lighten that load:
Trying to keep everything in your head can quickly become overwhelming. Writing things down can help you feel more in control - and a little less like you’re spinning plates.
The IVF Positivity Planner was created for this exact reason. It includes a dedicated treatment section where you can track appointments, medications, and key notes. But it's not just practical - it also helps you check in with how you're feeling, which is just as important.
You don’t have to carry it all alone. Whether it’s your partner, a close friend, a support group, or your clinic team - let someone in. Even just voicing your worries can help you feel less burdened.
And if you’re struggling to open up, try jotting down what you’re going through first - it can make those conversations feel a little easier.
When you're in treatment, it's easy to feel like IVF takes over your entire life. But you are still you, and you deserve space to rest, laugh, and do things that bring you joy - even if only in small moments.
The planner includes daily self-care prompts and gentle journaling exercises to help you reconnect with yourself. Because even five minutes to breathe, reflect, or just be can make a huge difference.
You're allowed to feel overwhelmed. You're allowed to feel angry, hopeful, sad, tired, confused… or all of them at once. This journey is full of ups and downs, and your feelings are completely valid.
There’s no “right” way to do this, and it’s okay if it feels hard. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s more than enough.
You don’t have to have everything figured out. Just focus on the next small step. One day, one decision, one act of care at a time.
And if you need a little help staying grounded and organised, that’s exactly what the IVF Positivity Planner is here for - to take some of the thinking off your plate and give you back some calm.
You are not alone in this.
The mental load of fertility treatment is real, but there are ways to ease it - and support is out there. You are doing something incredibly brave, and you deserve support that honours that.
If you’re interested in the IVF Positivity Planner, you can take a look [Grab a copy of the planner] - and if you just need someone to listen, I’m always here xx
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