You probably get told lots of times to 'stay positive' that it will happen, but we all know it's not as easy or as simple as that.
Positivity doesn't have to be about putting a smile on your face and telling yourself that you'll definitely get pregnant.
It's about having hope that everything will be alright, hope that you will be happy, whatever your future holds.
It's about having an action plan to help you take control and prioritise your emotional health.
It's about making time for self-care, for being kind to yourself and realising what an amazing person you are.
Keeping positive about life in general will make each day that bit brighter and this journey that little bit easier.
I know all too well that it can seem difficult to make changes when you are feeling overwhelmed, that’s why this planner is here to guide you through it, to keep you going when you are wobbling and to help you take back some of that all important control and focus on you.
The IVF Positivity Planner is designed to help you feel calmer, more informed and more in control of what is happening to your body, meaning you are in a better state for coping through TTC and treatment.
The reality is that, sadly, more IVF cycles end without a pregnancy than result in one. That doesn't make receiving a negative result any easier, particularly when you've spent weeks or months building up to that moment and allowing yourself to imagine what life might look like if it worked.
When you first start IVF, you imagine it’ll be full of hope and a team of people helping you move closer to your dream of having a baby. And while that’s true, what most people don’t talk about is how IVF can slowly chip away at your sense of dignity.
In this latest conversation in my ‘Taking Control’ series, I’m joined by the lovely Julianne Boutaleb, Perinatal Psychologist, to talk about the emotional impact of infertility and the things we can do to protect our mental wellbeing along the way.